Re-Balance Your Life

Take a minute and reflect upon what you have done in the past hour, past week, past month, and past year. How many checks have you marked on your list of goals? How many of your aspirations have been completed? Once a month when I track my progress of my goals, I find I have either gone astray or completely lost. That’s because it’s so easy to get caught up with everything that goes on in life. So, I’m dedicating this blog into balancing and re-balancing each and every aspect of my life.

Success (usually) leads to happiness. However, people tend to give up one part of their life to succeed in another. Life is not about giving one part for the better of another part. True happiness comes from having a perfect balance of each aspect of life. Now, I can’t say I’m truly happy, but I’m striving to find that balance.

How do I balance my life? Where do I start? Well, let’s take one step at a time. Many professional, self-improvement bloggers and authors advise to start with a list of goals. Grab a blank sheet of paper or open a word document and write a list of aspirations that you’d like to achieve. Personally, it’s easier to write everything that pops into my head. Disregard whether they are long-term aspirations or short-term goals. It does not matter if they are mental goals, physical goals, or spiritual goals. Just write.

If you need some help on ideas on what to write, take a look at Steve Pavlina’s 30-day trials. Once you feel like you have written everything you could, try to categorize them into spiritual goals, mental goals, physical goals, etc. Also, you can detail them out with sub-points. I’ve printed out my goals and posted them on my wall. Here’s a short list of mine:

Physical Improvement

  • Don’t drink soda, junk, or any other unhealthy foods
  • Stretch every day
  • Go for a long walk every day
  • Go for a 20 minute run every day
  • Exercise 5 times a week (30 – 60 minutes)
    • Increase each by one set every day
      • Warm Up with 2 sets of 20 high jumps
      • Run for 20 mins
      • 5 sets of 100 jump ropes
      • 5 sets of 30 crunches
      • 5 sets of 15 push-ups
      • Cool down of 1 minute leg lift
  • Work out at least 3 times a week (45 minutes)
    • Day 1 – arms and chest
    • Day 2 – back and shoulders
    • Day 3 – legs

Mental Improvement

  • Learn at least one new vocabulary word every day
  • Spend 30 minutes reviewing previous words
  • Learn foreign languages, study a foreign language for 15 mins
    • Korean
    • Spanish
    • Russian
    • Chinese
    • Japanese
    • Vietnamese
  • Learn to play guitar (at least 15 – 30 minutes everyday)
    • Yesterday – the Beatles
    • More than words – extreme
    • Wherever you go – the calling
    • Canon in D
  • Learn to play piano
    • Moonlight sonata
    • Other classical songs
  • Learn to dance, maybe some bboy
  • Learn to sing
  • Study GREs
  • Read daily

Relationship Improvement

  • Strengthen the relationships I have currently
  • Extend my network for the future – find people who are destined for success
  • Meet someone new every day. Start up a conversation with a stranger
  • Maintain communication with those in my network
  • Listen empathetically to people
  • Provide feedback only when they ask, listen and show that I care when they need to vent
  • Never judge and compare

Spiritual Improvement

  • Find a deeper self
  • Discover what I truly believe in

Family Improvement

  • Begin thinking of ways I’m going to be an exemplary father
  • Teach my children to be strong-willed, accomplished, yet modest people
  • Build a healthy mother-son and father-son bond
  • Explore what true brotherly love is

Financial Improvement

  • Allocate a certain amount of money into investments and savings
  • Increase personal net worth
  • Write finances and update it monthly

Miscellaneous Improvement

  • Give up spending so much time online
  • Go out every evening. Go somewhere different each time, and do something fun — this will be a memorable month
  • Clean your living area for 15 minutes a day
  • Volunteer
  • Write in a journal daily
  • Write or brainstorm possible blog entries daily
  • Cook dinner every day
  • Find out what I really want to do with my life
  • Dispose of unnecessary items